Navigating Surrogacy: A Partner’s Perspective on Love, Challenges, and the Joy of Helping Others Build Families

Since Charlotte and I have been together I knew surrogacy was something she was interested in exploring. Eighteen months ago, she sat me down and told me she felt she was ready to investigate it seriously and get the process started. My initial reaction was – ‘Wow, what a beautiful thing to do!’ – I know my greatest achievements in life have been raising our children and to then be able to help someone else achieve this feeling can only be a positive thing. It is truly awe-inspiring and I’m so proud of her decision.

I will admit there’s a lot more involvement expected from me than I initially realised, but it is manageable. The result is going to be a momentous achievement for everybody. Charlotte and I aren’t only helping two people to become parents; we are also giving people the opportunity to become grandparents, siblings the chance to be aunts and uncles and so on – the ripple effect from creating a family is so unique.

I often think to myself, how can any negative come out of helping someone achieve their dream, helping to create life, helping to grow a family? These feel like poignant moments that will always have a silver lining.

That said, it’s been a struggle in ways I couldn’t have imagined. However, the positives have massively outweighed the negative feelings. A lot of journeys we undertake in life can be a struggle and we overcome, grow, and learn from these experiences. That’s the key takeaway that makes supporting my partner through this journey so rewarding. It’s important to me that I can support Charlotte in her dream to provide a couple with their dream family.

We’re both helping a couple to start a family and in my opinion there’s simply nothing greater than knowing that we’re helping to change someone’s life for the better.

James