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The all important Fertility Mentor

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Written by Kelly DaSilva

Kelly DaSilva

I’m Kelly and I’m a Fertility Support Expert, writer, speaker and Founder of The Dovecoat; Childress Support Organisation. Inspired by my own personal experience of infertility. I specialises in developing and delivering ‘Emotional Support’ for those experiencing infertility either during treatment or in their own childless journey. I’m also on the Advisory Board at My Surrogacy Journey as well as being part of the Counselling team. I could be your Fertility Mentor. Want to know more?

What is a Fertility Mentor? 

As the path to parenthood can often feel like a long and daunting process, the Fertility Mentor provides additional emotional support for those on the Surrogacy journey – as part of My Surrogacy Journey’s inclusive support offerings. 

The Fertility Mentor provides IPs and surrogates with an opportunity to speak and connect with someone who has a lived, personal experience of fertility treatment and to learn several tools and strategies to enable you to navigate the journey with more ease – as you work to achieve the family of your dreams.  

What will Fertility Mentor sessions include?

Each session, facilitated by your Fertility Mentor, will be guided by where you are at ‘both emotionally and physically’ in the journey. By listening to and understanding your individual needs, tools including Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP) and Emotional Freedom Techniques (EFT) will be carefully selected and incorporated into your sessions where appropriate. Tailored specifically to your personal circumstances, each tool and strategy will be explained and demonstrated so they can be used both inside and outside the sessions.  

The format of these sessions will broadly follow: 

  • Initial ‘Check in’ with IP / Surrogate – to include how you are feeling about the process, identifying any barriers, worries or anxieties. 
  • Use a tool to identify areas of greatest concern. 
  • Identify and introduce NLP / EFT Tools that would benefit the IP / Surrogate 
  • Facilitate EFT session / NLP Tools & Techniques 
  • Reflection 

As well as being an understanding and empathic ear, your Mentor will guide you through each session and encourage you to reflect on the areas that are posing most challenge. By doing so, you will not only have the opportunity to speak about your journey but apply useful tools help you moving forward.  

Hi everyone, So I’m Mike, guess I’m the crazy one who had the idea to sell our souls to Social Media and open up our world for everyone to comment on and observe our lives. I spend most nights (when not with Talulah and Duke obviously) with my phone glued to my hand, posting, sharing, liking and filming - all in readiness for Facebook, Insta and now YouTube. It’s getting to be a full time job, which is tricky - as I have one of those! For the last 18 years I have worked within Medical Recruitment and have worked in a variety of high pressured Operational and Business Development roles in London and the Midlands. More recently I am working for myself as it gives me greater flexibility with our new family via my Consultancy firm MJE Consultancy Ltd, where I attract and recruit Fertility Nurses, Embryologists and IVF Consultants and other specialist Doctors, as the Fertility Industry is my passion. I’m obviously one half of TwoDads.U.K and very proud of that fact too, and without doubt being a father is and has been the best job I’ve ever had. Nothing prepares you for the impact these little humans have on us, I know if you’re anything like me, the joy of being a parent just keeps on giving (whilst equally testing me too!). Don’t get me wrong, there’s days where I want to sit on the garage floor and drown myself in Gin but on the whole, life is better than it ever has been...

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